Tiger Woods Complex of Perpetrators

June 7, 2016


In my own life, I always referred to the privilege that "allowed" these types of behaviours to occur the "Tiger Woods Complex". It wasn't about anything more or less than abusing because he felt that he was entitled to.

This is something I could never change in my personal life. The "Tiger Woods Complex" of my perpetrator was a deep-rooted, long-standing tradition that allowed for no consideration of impact, effect, damage, empathy, shame, regret - none of these existed for him. It was his right simply because it was his right.

My own healing has allowed room for awareness. Our statistics are grim: victims rarely report these crimes to the police and our conviction rates are shamefully low.

But I don't need to repeat all of this, it's been heard over and over since the Ghomeshi trial - yet another shining example of a perpetrator with the "Tiger Woods Complex".

What I do need to say is find this: "an entry point into difficult discussions about rape. Have the strength and courage to break the code of silence. Listen without judgment to the experiences of your mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends and daughters. Talk honestly to your fathers, brothers, friends."

The first thing you must do is listen. Listen to the stories of sexual violence and domestic abuse that the women you know have a right and a need to share. Open your heart to really hear their experience and validate their feelings of impact.

And if you can't find that entry point on your own, find me or choose 1 out of every four women in your life because one of them (at least) has been victimized in some way and we are ready to break the code of silence.


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